D57 - The True Bridezilla
I've only just realised who the true bridezilla was. 😑
They say that couples fight the most during the engagement period. I think we've had our fair share of easy and difficult days during these past months. We've been good friends for over a decade but we'd never had to plan a big event together. And over the last few formative years of our twenties, I hadn't realised just how much we'd been shaped by our work and environment in the way we approached problems and tasks.
He, for one, is an avid pre-planner: a technical-analytical, no-nonsense and risk-averse conservative with a hint of eccentric flair. Back in uni, he would finish his assignments weeks in advance, write up his own exam summaries and people would go to him for help. On the other hand, I was surprised to find that I'd become the laissez-faire, unconventional, free-minded creative whose abstract planning style drove him crazy for lack of understanding. (We do also have many similarities..)
At D-59, I think we can say, we've begun to embrace our differences. I've needed to up my game in many areas, he's had to let go. In the end, I'm glad for a means of refinement as I learn to practice the big A word: ACCEPTANCE. I can only imagine how this will continue on into the rest of our lives so the quicker we learn, the better.
I am reminded that the purpose of marriage is sanctification, rather than happiness.
I am also very much looking forward to the pre-marriage course we are about to start.
It's a little late but we need to start the real prep for married life, not just the practical preparations for the wedding day. (Notice the distinction between the words MARRIAGE and WEDDING. One is life-long, the other but a day.)
Trying not to lose perspective as we get caught up in the flurry of last-minute preparations now.
WEDDING Checklist: dress, invitations and photo/video vendors are finally big ticks. Once this is over, I think I will take a day to put up big lists of all the research we've done and make someone else's wedding planning much easier (so that you can concentrate more on the MARRIAGE preparations).